Stacey Seaside

Wishing you gentle readers all the best in 2025.

The year I was expecting is not the year that arrived.

Fortunately, at the beginning of December, I got turned on to a new concept.

This new concept is helping me deal with frustration, grief, control and anything or anybody that pushes my buttons.

It is called “The Let Them Theory.”

The book, of the same name, was written by Mel Robbins. The theory was inspired while she was trying to micromanage her son’s prom attendance.

I was first exposed to the theory when I listened to her podcast interview with Oprah Winfrey in early December.

According to Robbins,

“If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, let them.

If your kids don’t want to get up and go to that thing with you this weekend, let them.”

Robbins says on her Instagram account,

“You can’t force someone to change.

If someone doesn’t want to change—or isn’t ready to do the work to change—they won’t.

Instead of getting frustrated, try saying “Let Them.”

When you stop trying to control what they do, you give them the space to change on their own terms, when they’re ready.

And in turn, you free yourself from the stress and responsibility of trying to manage things you can’t control, according to Robbins.

“If the person that you’re really attracted to is not interested in a commitment, let them. “

Robbin’s web site describes the book as:

“A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About”

The Let Them Theory is a step-by-step guide

on how to stop letting other people’s opinions, drama, and judgment impact your life.

Two simple words,

Let Them,

will set you free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you.

It’s time to build a life where you come first—your dreams, your goals, your happiness.”

As Robbins sees it, too much time and energy is wasted on

forcing other people to match our expectations.

Just “letting them” is a better response, especially in our romantic lives and friendship.

Now there are a lot of folks who like to use “life changing” as a sales tool.

For me, I am already seeing how effective using it has been and so I am promoting here.

Mel Robbins is a wife, mother of 3 and got started in the personal motivation business 15 years ago. She has even hosted a television show. And she has also published “The High Five Habit” and “The Five Second Rule.”

On her website she describes herself:

“Fifteen years ago, I hit rock bottom

and nearly lost everything I cared about in life.

My anxiety was so bad, I could barely drag myself out of bed.

Today, I’m one of the most respected experts on change and motivation in the world.

Millions of people and the world’s leading brands

come to me for advice and science-backed tools to become

more confident, effective, and fulfilled.”

I gifted the book to myself –it was released on Christmas Eve.

I have signed up for her podcasts and newsletters.

I am recommending it to everyone that I know and love who I see struggling.

Struggling because they allow other people to affect their happiness.

So, by way of resolutions for 2025,

I can not say enough good things about how

I am enjoying reading her book and listening to her podcasts available on Apple and YouTube.

The web links are noted wherever you see the text underlined. Have a listen, take a look and let me know what you think.

I hope my recommendation brings you great joy in 2025 with Robbin’s “Let Them” theory!